Someone recently used the phrase ‘wherever you go there you are.’ While that is true, you can go where you’ve never gone before.
If you want to do that, the number one thing you need in your life now: FAILURE
If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. If you want to get further, more, something different than what you have, you have to s-t-r-e-t-c-h. The very definition of stretch implies the risk of failure.
If you are not failing at something, you’re probably not trying anything new – ergo, you are standing still.
More money, more clients, safe, better, improved… wanting any of these things means doing something different.
The remarkable Bruce Lee said:
“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”
You have an inner Genie that gets you moving, that motivates you to do things in spite of the potential for failure or disappointment. The quality that moves you most effectively is your Genie.
Two key qualities you have that you can draw on to help you deal with the risk are COURAGE and FAITH.
Courage in this context would mean weighing the risks,making contingency plans that might mitigate a poor outcome, and doing it anyway. Eleanor Roosevelt famously said: “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.”
Faith here means knowing you will be able to deal with any outcome, that things will work out one way or the other. The iconic Dr. Benjamin Spock said: “Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”
Another quality that can help when we tackle the risk of failure is HONOR.
“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and I’m here to live up to mine.”
Give your own expectations for yourself the priority they deserve. The people in your life who love you will help and support you when they recognize how important your own expectations of yourself are to you.
In the words of SoHo’s great salon owner, Jo Blackwell-Preston, “Don’t you dare, for one more second, surround yourself with people who are not aware of the greatness that you are.”
Dream big, but stay in the now, always facing and dealing with now. No dwelling on the past, no wishing for the future. Simply staying CONSCIOUS, adjusting and doing what now demands for your dream is the single most powerful mode of thinking you can use.
I probably can’t get away without quoting the incredible Mr. Jim Rohn on this one: “You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction overnight.”
The ways to fail are as varied as snowflakes – and sometimes just as beautiful. Pay attention to the learning you get from each failure. Tweak, turn, twist and try again.
You’ve only failed when you have given up trying. The quality of ENDURANCE is what takes us from failure to success. Persistence is key.
Apparently the words of Leonardo DaVinci, the man who dared to fail and has the successes to prove it: “Life is pretty simple: You do some stuff. Most fails. Some works. You do more of what works.”
The question is which of these qualities, if any, would you use? How do you push boundaries and S – T – R – E – T -C – H ?
Courage, Faith, Honor, Consciousness, and Endurance are only a few of the qualities that we have at our disposal to help us achieve our potential in life. What works for you? What is your Genie?
Find out more about MASTERING YOUR GENIE HERE.
Author: Sue Hines