If you suspect you’ve missed your calling, read on!
I remember the first time I heard the expression: “The light is on, but there’s nobody home.”
I was 9 or 10 years old when my mother made this remark about Rose, a neighbor who was sweet and kind, but had an air of resigned emptiness.
My mother explained that Rose had loved drawing as a child and wanted to be an artist, but her father, a strict disciplinarian, had called art an awful waste of productive time and forbade “doodling” in his house.
Rose has drawn from time to time, and even took an art class once, but had never regained the innate pleasure she once got from it as a child. To this day, drawing leaves her feeling guilty about squandering time on something unimportant.
Have you ever felt like that – that doing something you love is a waste of time?
I have noticed the same “light on – nobody home” sense in others:
- In the hairdresser who had dropped out of nursing school to bring in money for the family after her father died
- In the third-generation farmer who passed up an Ivy League scholarship under pressure, as the only son, to keep the family farm going
- In the eyes of the young trumpeter who had not drawn the straw that would have won him one of the two cellos in the middle school band
Taking on other people’s “shoulds” and “should nots” pull us away from our sense of Self. It’s okay to be pulled from your calling for a while to deal with the demands of life, but it’s not okay to let go of it altogether!
Being motivated from the outside never has the same weight in our souls as doing something that feels right and good because it fills us with joy.
There’s another thing too. We all grow and change. What once felt good and fed your spirit may no longer do the same thing for you. Not everyone was meant to pursue the same occupation for 30, 40 or even 50 years.
I wonder how many people feel handcuffed to a job or career that no longer fills them with excitement. It is okay to change. Nobody says it’s easy, but in the end, it’s got to be easier than wearing yourself out doing something that offers little satisfaction.
But what exactly is your calling? What do you do that feels authentic and fulfilling?
It doesn’t have to be “big” – just something that makes you feel “larger than life” or lights the fire within you.
It’s never too late!
Author: Sue Hines
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