Reaching Milestones or just Marking Time
In talking about achievement the other day, I remembered something a wise, wise woman once told me, and I would like to share the thought with you.
Dr. Patti Havenga Coertze is her name, bright eyed, curious, and always thinking – differently. The first day I met her, she took me into her sunny dining room for tea and delicious cake that she had baked herself.
As she poured the tea, she asked me to tell her a little about myself. I told her where I was born, how I had lived in several countries as a young child, that I was a middle child, where I had gone to high school and when and where I got my degree, that I had married, had 2 children, got divorced…
Then she sat down opposite me, took my hands in hers and said that I had told her nothing about my life yet, and she now wanted to know about me.
Seeing my baffled face, she pointed out that I had only given her a few milestones out of my 30-something years. “You measure your life only by the milestones you set and see, but what about every moment in-between?”
The conversation that followed was first of many incredible conversations I had with Patti. She showed me that in telling her what I did about my life, I had told her about all the doing and none of the being.
In that distinction, I learned that we“do what must be done” between “being what we must be”, and it is the being, not the doing that matters most.
One’s life, she taught is like a stalactite you find in a cave, a giant record of our being: a long, tall column made up of tiny drips that evaporate, leaving only the minerals in them. Events and milestones are like the water in the stalactite, they evaporate, they are not the mark that remains on our souls.
You have heard people saying that it is not the events that happen in your life that count, but what you do with them. Well, Patti had a way of making you think about what you are doing with those events.
Like the time she asked me what I do with my unused time. “What happens to it?”
When we are not living for our being we find all kinds of ways not to seize the day, but to lose the day. We wish away today in our wanting of something tomorrow. We work away today, aiming for the goal that will be ours tomorrow.
I invite you to reclaim your unused time – before you spend it. Think about what you are doing today, right now, that will be deposited in the column of your soul once the time and task have evaporated.
That, my friend, is the core of who you are. It is the soul of your brand and it is your legacy.
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Author: Sue Hines