I Choose You

I choose youDo you ever get frustrated because others seem to have a handle on how to move themselves forward while you grapple with choosing what to focus on next to create meaningful momentum in your life or business? Why is that?

Some people go after what they want and usually get it. Others hang back and wait, somehow hoping it will come to them without their having to reach out.

It’s not about being extravert or introvert. A person can be quiet or shy and decisive and resolute at the same time.

It is not about being an optimist or pessimist either, though pessimists generally take less action than optimists.

Its my hypothesis that being ready and willing to go after what you want without being afraid to ask for it, is a matter of being in alignment – mind, heart and spirit. That is what creates momentum!

Line up your thoughts about something with your feelings. Sync them up with your principles or values and everything becomes clear.

That last piece is where things often fall apart. We are usually quite aware of the reasoning and thoughts behind our actions. We even have a good handle on how we feel about things, but then there is something that is “off”.

Often it is not logical and we struggle to explain it – we just have the notion that even though taking a certain action is reasonable or sensible, it just isn’t right for us somehow.

It is in this realm of principle or a subliminal judgment that we experience discomfort. It is difficult to explain our values. We don’t readily find the words, or even the thoughts, to adequately describe them, so we don’t try.

We live instead with an inner wordless struggle that tugs at our reason and our feelings.

This is where the power of storytelling comes in, or poetry, or great literature. Because a well told story evokes more than a plot, it helps us grasp and identify an underlying theme that echoes that wordless quality or principle we recognize in our own selves.

In Language and the Pursuit of Happiness, Chalmers Brothers says “We human beings appear to be creatures that must make sense of things.” To do this, we interpret and add significance through constructing stories about things.

It is in understanding how we are interpreting things that we free ourselves from the choice conundrum. Everyone has their own baseline story or stories that frame how they see the world. The default way of interpreting seeps into every corner of our lives.

When you know your baseline story, the underlying principle/s that explain how you see the world, it becomes easy to see how it is affecting your choices. It is no longer a vague sense that clouds your judgment. It becomes a useful yardstick instead.

This, my friends, is the Genie in you. It can open doors and take you where you want to go. It controls you whether you pay attention to it or not. If you choose not to examine and understand it, that control leaves you feeling frustrated and confused.

I choose you. I choose to work with the Genie in you.  Let’s talk about your Genie, and discover how it influences your decisions. Does it work alone, or do you have multiple stories that color your world?

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Author: sue Hines

  1. Susan CooperSusan Cooper11-06-2014

    Very thought provoking post. I’m sure if we really analyze it, the entire way we view the world around us is completely clouded by our past. Right or wrong as that view may be it could really be holding us back unless we learn to see it for what it is.
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    • Sue HinesSue Hines11-06-2014

      Thank you for your kind words, Susan. You always have insightful comments to add, and this time is no exception. you clearly see your past in your actions today – what a gift.

  2. MeredithMeredith11-04-2014

    That’s an interesting concept, that being in alignment can affect how you go after your goals. That really gives me something to think about. I confess to being somewhat scattered in my focus, and that makes it hard to prioritize tasks. I guess I need to figure out how it all works together!
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    • Sue HinesSue Hines11-05-2014

      Hi Meredith, I hope it provides some clues. Getting those values involved in the ToDo list may help you structure your attention. We tend to take them for granted, and that makes it hard to apply them consciously. Rollo May said that anxiety is a sign of the need for creativity, and that if one feels anxious, one is being called to create something new – a new perspective, a new dynamic, or to creatively change the situation in some way.

  3. Jacqueline GumJacqueline Gum11-04-2014

    “Line up your thoughts about something with your feelings. Sync them up with your principles or values and everything becomes clear.” This line really spoke to me Sue. It is really making sense of these things that pulls everything together and motivates me towards my future:) Wonderful post!
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    • Sue HinesSue Hines11-05-2014

      Thanks, Jacqueline. Glad it resonated with you. I value your support.

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