Do you ever get frustrated because others seem to have a handle on how to move themselves forward while you grapple with choosing what to focus on next to create meaningful momentum in your life or business? Why is that?
Some people go after what they want and usually get it. Others hang back and wait, somehow hoping it will come to them without their having to reach out.
It’s not about being extravert or introvert. A person can be quiet or shy and decisive and resolute at the same time.
It is not about being an optimist or pessimist either, though pessimists generally take less action than optimists.
Its my hypothesis that being ready and willing to go after what you want without being afraid to ask for it, is a matter of being in alignment – mind, heart and spirit. That is what creates momentum!
Line up your thoughts about something with your feelings. Sync them up with your principles or values and everything becomes clear.
That last piece is where things often fall apart. We are usually quite aware of the reasoning and thoughts behind our actions. We even have a good handle on how we feel about things, but then there is something that is “off”.
Often it is not logical and we struggle to explain it – we just have the notion that even though taking a certain action is reasonable or sensible, it just isn’t right for us somehow.
It is in this realm of principle or a subliminal judgment that we experience discomfort. It is difficult to explain our values. We don’t readily find the words, or even the thoughts, to adequately describe them, so we don’t try.
We live instead with an inner wordless struggle that tugs at our reason and our feelings.
This is where the power of storytelling comes in, or poetry, or great literature. Because a well told story evokes more than a plot, it helps us grasp and identify an underlying theme that echoes that wordless quality or principle we recognize in our own selves.
In Language and the Pursuit of Happiness, Chalmers Brothers says “We human beings appear to be creatures that must make sense of things.” To do this, we interpret and add significance through constructing stories about things.
It is in understanding how we are interpreting things that we free ourselves from the choice conundrum. Everyone has their own baseline story or stories that frame how they see the world. The default way of interpreting seeps into every corner of our lives.
When you know your baseline story, the underlying principle/s that explain how you see the world, it becomes easy to see how it is affecting your choices. It is no longer a vague sense that clouds your judgment. It becomes a useful yardstick instead.
This, my friends, is the Genie in you. It can open doors and take you where you want to go. It controls you whether you pay attention to it or not. If you choose not to examine and understand it, that control leaves you feeling frustrated and confused.
I choose you. I choose to work with the Genie in you. Let’s talk about your Genie, and discover how it influences your decisions. Does it work alone, or do you have multiple stories that color your world?
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Author: sue Hines