How ‘Fresh’ Are You?

ready to changeIf you’re feeling life is a never-ending struggle, it’s possible that it’s you and not your life (or business) that needs a makeover. Sometimes, we even recognize that in ourselves, but don’t know where to start.

  • Do you always get the response you are looking for?
  • Are you getting what you want out of your relationships?
  • Is your business richly rewarding, both personally and financially?

Things don’t always go our way and people can be the strangest creatures! So, if you answered “NO” to any of those questions, perhaps it is time to to step back and take a second look at yourself.

I am sure you’ve heard that doing the same thing but expecting a different result is a simple definition of madness.

I have found that the one constant in life is CHANGE. When things are working, great! But after a while, they usually stop working at the same level, and it is time to configure something differently or do something new.

I have found the most difficult thing for many people is recognizing when it is not the situation that needs changing, but you – your attitude or perspective. In the heat of the moment, though, it is really hard to keep your head.

We get ourselves so tangled up in a relationship we can’t see the dynamic, and we cannot figure out the right roles to play.

People! People fill our days. They help us, frustrate us, love, us and challenge us. Sometimes they drive us nuts and sometimes they simply feed our souls.

Ultimately, though, we are responsible for the quality of our relationships.

Stressed relationships are commonplace. There is so much truth in the saying that the heart of relationships is communication. When that breaks down, so do the relationships.

Recognizing that it takes two to communicate, and that you are part of the problem is the first step to becoming part of the solution.

This applies in personal and business situations. If your business is not attracting the people you want to work with, you might be the first place to look for a solution.

  • What are you saying?
  • What are you thinking as you’re saying it?
  • Do you know what they want? Really? Did you ask or are you guessing?

If your business does not still infuse you with the same excitement and energy it once did or that you thought it would, perhaps it’s time you changed your approach?

The same goes for personal interactions and relationships.

Here’s a really important “thought for the day”: The choices we make define the life we live.

You know you have all the information you need when you can make confident decisions. Anxiety is the signal you need something. It’s up to you to determine if that is more information, a new perspective, assistance, or any number of things.

Recognizing those things it is not, is also important. It is not more time. There is no more time than the 24 hours we each have in the day. Wishing for more time actually is a sign you need to reprioritize, and reallocate your time.

Do you make decisions with “eyes closed and heart aimed”, or do you like to look at things from all angles before you make up your mind? Either answer is fine if it is working for you. If not, it’s time to refresh your perspective.

If you’re spending time plodding or dragging yourself through something you would rather not be doing, its time for a refresh. Ride your strengths and everything seems so much easier! The simple act of recognizing or even just facing and accepting how you were made can be one of those instantaneous life-altering moments that empowers you to adjust your perspective.

So, my wish for you is that you stay fresh, my friend, stay fresh.

If you’re ready for a refresh, check out your Genie profile. I promise it will offer you food for thought.


  1. Jacqueline GumJacqueline Gum11-13-2014

    Ah…the old heat or mind decision can sometimes be a tough one. Balance is key, but sometimes difficult to find. I know folks who think that changing something in their business or personal like will be the answer to whatever ails their personal or business life. The can’t see that the change needed lies within. The post reminded me of a saying my grandmother used to use…”Wherever you go, there you are.”
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    • Sue HinesSue Hines12-01-2014

      Yes, there you are. It is so simple and yet we wonderfully complex humans get ourselves tangled in minutia and go off track. Hopefully, though, we figure it out before we get lost.

  2. Susan CooperSusan Cooper11-12-2014

    I was definitely feeling that way at my last job in the corporate world, plodding along through my day, dreading going to work. But even though I was miserable I was still disoriented leaving that world because that’s what I knew and what had been my identity for so long. I didn’t even realize how much I needed a change and refresh until I was out of it for a while and could step back and see things more clearly. So happy I took that leap of faith, made that change and have started doing my own thing!
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    • Sue HinesSue Hines12-01-2014

      We are all glad you did, Susan, or we wouldn’t have your insightful blog!

  3. ikechiikechi11-11-2014

    Hi Sue

    Yes you are right that when life becomes so frustrating, it is time to re-evaluate your life. Most of the time, the things that stress our life have more to do with our mindset. Thanks for this awesome post.

    • Sue HinesSue Hines12-01-2014

      Ikechi – your comment made me wonder if the feeling of “frustrating” might be just the right trigger to awaken a thought that it must be time to re-evaluate.

  4. Sarah PickupSarah Pickup11-11-2014

    Lovely read – thank you for sharing! I’m sure we can all use a little freshen up at times.

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